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The uncivil process in Cheshire and CT

I was told recently that the Cheshire Police Department's reputation for in-action proceeds them... because a mother and her children would be alive today if they did act.

I am a mother whom reported a trespass and a threat, and curiously before the department had completed their investigation an "un-named" Cheshire male police officer conveyed to the state attorney that this was a "civil" issue, and that the neighbor's handyman simply stepped onto our property to blow leaves. This officer conveniently left out the fact that I captured the incident and audio on my phone; that these persons had been forewarned about trespassing, and that further contact would mean criminal charges could be filed, AND the fact that I had been threatened. They purposefully did not provide the evidence to the state attorney. I had been left with a property marker snapped in half, a visual threat of what could happen to me. I had also come to find this "handyman" (paid harasser and intimidator) also has a police record, and has been in jail for 10 months. My children were afraid of this man. He was called every time we went outside. He parked in front of my son's bedroom (that he refused to sleep in) everyday, including Sundays. This notably was one of many different types of property markers that were tampered with, hammered in, and destroyed by our neighbor, her family, her friend, and her handyman. Our neighbor had been ticketed for this offense - but received 10 continuances for the infraction. Probably because her attorney and the prosecutor had made a closed door deal: SETTLE=NOLLE. Meaning: if there was to be a settlement in the civil suit she had asserted that the ticket would just disappear - like it never happened. I provided this prosecutor with my neighbor's own admission from her deposition that she did this... but her infraction file was very thin. Although I did happen to come across a copy of a letter written by her attorney to the infraction dept. detailing that she had agreed to move her fence off our property (abandoning her threats of Adverse Possession and claim of our property) which she lied under oath about in her deposition, and also that although she and her attorney had legally asserted in there civil complaint (and to the police dept.) that the chain link fence had been there since prior to 1980 was not the truth; but in fact there had been another fence in and/or around there beforehand. Isn't that curious that detail was left out? Perhaps because our neighbor and her attorney had hoped that filing this fraudulent civil suit on the wrong return date would scare us, and our neighbor would be able to steal land without providing the burden of proof elements to win an AP claim. They would scare us with her threat to cost us time and money - and she would win by default. After all we don't have any money to fight this - we are lowly second class citizens whom cannot afford justice, are the parents of a disabled child, and young child... how dare we say no!

Now our neighbor newly asserts that the "then" owner of our property (in the 70's) knew that our neighbor had adversely possessed their property, and in effect is claiming that this family knowingly signed a legal document at the sale of their property and deceptively did not disclose the encroaching fence. This claim subjects this family to fault at breaking chain of title, and withholding the information from the lender and insurance institutions. However, we know this knew claim to be false as well, and is simply just another way to delay, cost us time and money, and as conveyed from our neighbor, her attorney, and the prosecutor in Meriden, that they will just wait until we're forced into foreclosure and they will just deal with the bank. An effective sinister plan. They seem to feel that the bank will simply slice off this piece of non-conforming lot, that cannot be made more non-conforming, to just gift it to our neighbor.

Our neighbor, a real estate agent, had asserted ADVERSE POSSESSION in June of 2011. After many threats initially through her daughter, a private investigator, since 2009, she verbally agreed to move her chain link fence off our property which creates an encroachment and also an unmarketable title - meaning one would have to disclose the encroachment at the sale of the property. See case details at NNH-CV11-6021551-S. Adverse Possession basically means that your neighbor steals your property openly (so that everyone notices) and notoriously (that everyone knows they have done it); have done so continuously and uninterruptedly in CT for a 15 yr. period; have done it without the true owner's consent and to the true owner's possession. The problem with this is that our neighbor's attorney stated, "we can assert anything we want; if we can't prove it; we can't prove it..." They assert lie after lie in an effort to bleed a family dry and force us from our home. As our neighbor said in front of our son, "I hope you lose your home..." And to my son she said, "I don't harass you... there are cameras on you..."  It is an abuse of the legal process. It is pure abuse of a family.

A dilemma that I see for my neighbor is that she has gone to extensive lengths to avoid the "notorious" component of her assertions... involving her attorney to threaten me with a cease and desist letter if the Cheshire Herald published a story about Adverse Possession. It warned that settlement discussions would be gone for good... I was forced to ask to retract the story and give up my right to freedom of speech. But, it is my understanding that the public would already be aware of my neighbor's assertions and claims if she is claiming adverse possession. Or, maybe - it was the visit her private investigator daughter made to the editor that changed his mind. He said it was personal. Well, my husband was being sued, and my neighbor is the one whom made the assertions, how come she is so desperate to hide it?

Our neighbor's family screamed to us, "the police said we could do whatever we want..." Apparently true.

Utilizing the connections within the police department to evade accountability... our neighbor said, "I should get my person in uniform here"...true.

Utilizing a handyman and cameras to lie in wait to harass and intimidate a family...true.

Blasting music through her speaker system outside while we are outside and she is not...disturbing.

Shining lights and pointing and filming with video cameras at bedroom windows and children...deeply disturbing.

Sending your dog to bark incessantly at a disabled child, and rewarding the dog and saying good dog...so deeply disturbing.

Having an in-ground pool on a lot that is under 20,000 sq. ft. and an out of code fence surrounding in...dangerous - BUT allowed because the town manager and town attorney have taken the position that until this goes to court our neighbor is allowed this and not fined. This although if the case ever goes before a judge and our neighbor was to win only means her out of code fence would stand where it does, and still be out of code. My child was able to fit in between the chain link fence and white fence, but we were told, as well as the neighbors on the other side that our neighbor has a strong pool cover...our young relative drowned in a pool...does that have to happen in order for the town to enforce their own codes?

Egging our home in response to our complaint to the police department about our neighbor's handyman continually parking in front of our home - and then having the handy man lean against his vehicle and the private investigator daughter walk her mother's dog while watching me clean it off...disgusting. 

Sending your daughter and a state trooper to my place of work to upset me and cause me distress after never doing business there when they've lived in Cheshire for most of their lives...true.

Using your daughter's private investigator connections to draft questionable affidavits, notarized by her boss of which she has relations with, and the actual whereabouts and/or if the affidavit was even notarized in the presence of the notary...possibly illegal.

Having other neighbor's aware of what is transpiring, and not reporting to police that they have seen our neighbor point snow blowers at our no trespassing signs and trespass...disappointing.

Conflict of interest response and I'm really so sorry response, I get when I seek representation of a civil rights attorney because of a connection to a previous chief state attorney and private investigation firm...so sad.

Asking the Attorney General's office for help and having them respond that this is criminal... and the police department says its civil = no one protects our rights.

Trying to make the bank honor the covenant of warrantee of our deed should our title fail...tiring.

Begging the school system for a safe haven for my child and informing the school of what is transpiring, and fear it is happening within school, then finding out it has been happening for years...alarming.

School officials writing that my child needs to understand social cues and have different friends in response to my complaint of harassment, physical threat, disability related discrimination, and the fact that my son cannot withstand the hostile school environment; leaving me with "don't let (blank) use his disability..." So hurtful and ignorant, adversely transformative, and dangerously negligent.

Knowing that our neighbor is aware of our child's disability and targets him to hurt my husband and I...inhumane.

Losing our home, our credit, our security, our savings, our trust and faith and future for our children - fulfilling our neighbor's malicious intent...yes.

Leaving Cheshire to save my family...definitely.

Exposing the truth to those out there whom have been treated like second class citizens...absolutely.

Hoping someone on the police department remember the oath to protect and serve - everyone - equally before there are more tragedies in Cheshire....still waiting.

Still waiting...





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